Self help relationship advice to build EXTRAORDINARY Relationships!...

Building EXTRAORDINARY relationships with your lover, family and friends, is very much a key element to living your dream life. Everybody needs good, strong relationships in their life...

If you don't believe you need good relationships in your life, than I would like to challenge that and suggest that the reason why you feel this way, is because you've probably had some pretty crappy
one's in the past...

Well have you?...

Either way, I want to show you how you can start building EXTRAORDINARY relationships with just some of my self help relationship advice...

"Why just some self help relationship advice?"...

Well...

This is a really complex topic, and therefore I'll probably need the entire space of the Internet, to write about it. So with that being the case, I've basically given you the most powerful snippets of my self help relationship advice...

Your goal, should be to build extraordinary relationships, not OK, or good, You deserve EXTRAORDINARY. So let's get stuck in!...

Take off all your clothes and get naked!

Before we go any further, let's get first things first...

Take of your clothes and strip naked...

Come on what you waiting for? STRIP...


OK, I'm winding you up, but just out of curiosity, did you do it? :-))...

What I really mean, is that you need to 'strip' yourself bare and start from the beginning. In other words, it's very important to evaluate, and where necessary sort out your values. It's the nucleus of ANY 'proper' relationship...

Talking of values, now is as good a time as any to check out my foundations personality test. It's FREE and very important, so check it out now and find out how strong I think your foundations are. This is very relevant to my self help relationship advice. So click here.

So why is it so important do I hear you ask?...

Well, your values will determine how you will react in a given situation, so if your values are, how should I say this, a 'bit messed up', then recognise that your relationships will have the potential to also be 'messed up', and obviously we don't want that now, do we?

So, good strong values is the first step. If you build your relationships on top of good strong, solid values, then you have a much greater chance of forming extraordinary relationships, that, along with my self help relationship advice of course. ;-))

Oh and by the way, don't worry about anybody else yet, just focus on 'fixing' yourself up first, before you expect others to fix themselves up. Many times you'll find that others around you will naturally follow your lead, as they start to see the way you 'manage' your relationships.

I hope you have small feet!...

Another very important bit of relationship advice I can give you, is to put yourself in the shoes of others, or in other words, have empathy. It's an absolute MUST!...

To really relate with someone, you have to feel their pain, their sadness, their joy, their happiness, etc. The only way you can do this, is to 'be them', even if it's for 1 second. That's the only way your conversations can be truly heart felt.

Don't you just hate it when you are trying to talk to somebody about something that's really important to you, but they're not listening. It's even worse when people agree with your point, before you've even made it. That sort of thing tells me that their mentality is, "I couldn't give a F@$k about what you've got to say"...

That's not cool!... :-(

And guess what happens the next time you have something you want to talk about?...

Yep, you ain't going to waste your time telling that person!

My point is, you DON'T want to be that person.

You should always aim to leave the other person feeling like they are the only person in the world that matters. However, an extraordinary relationship is about give and take - it's a 2 way street!


So, I hope your feet are real small, because if you are going to follow my self help relationship advice to the letter, then you're going to have to fit into as many shoes as possible.

The positives are great, but the negatives are GREATER!

Some people love 'pats on the back', and will let you know when they haven't had one, if they feel they deserve one. Many times you may be pointing out something negative relating to the person, and they will quickly respond with, "But what about all the good things I've done?"...


Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that this is a bad thing, instead, I'm suggesting that you should at least think about the negative points. Remember, one negative point could be so serious, that it wipes out all the positives. So instead, use your negatives and grow from them...

Eventually, when you do this, you become infectious to people, because you're bursting with positives.


Remember my saying...

"Bad is GOOD, if you allow it to be!"

Do you prefer fantasy or reality films?

Any meaningful relationship, has to be REAL. Take my foolish relationship advice on this one...

Falseness is a major no-no! Think of a sales person that knocks on your door, if you're anything like me, then you will be very wary and have your guard up, but most importantly, you won't be quick to believe everything that they tell you. When you feel this way towards somone, it's a relationship killer...


In any meaningful relationship, there is going to come a time when you need the other person to 'take your word for it'. If you haven't been real in the past, then it's going to be very difficult for the other person to believe you...

The minute you start to doubt what the other person says, is the same minute your relationship with that person begins to die a miserable death...

Read my article on building trust in a relationship for more on this subject

So it's up to you, Fantasy or reality?

It's the thought that counts

I remember when I was a kid and I would get a gift that I thought was rubbish, my mum would always say to me "It's the thought that counts". It's only as I've grown up, I realise that it's SO true...

Listen carefully to this next piece of self help relationship advice...

Always judge the mentality behind what someone says, or does (or doesn't say or doesn't do). Let me give you a quick example

Imagine that someone tells you they love you, the words themselves would be welcomed warmly, right? But what if the person saying it, was trying to 'butter you up' for something? If you knew that's what they were trying to do, would you welcome it warmly then?...

You see the words are the same, but the mentality is completely different. There will come a time in any type of relationship, where you are faced with something very similar. Sometimes, somebody might say something to you that might, at first, seem out of order, but the mentality behind it was pure...

If you have a extraordinary relationship, then you will be able to ask the person to clarify their actions, politely of course...

This one piece of self help relationship advice, can save a relationship from going 'wrongfully' pear shaped.

What did you expect?

If you're familiar with my work, then you'll know the meaning of my saying, "Bad is GOOD, if you allow it to be!". The saying is very general and can be applied in different ways, to different situations. Let me give you an example of it with perception in a relationship...

The self help relationship advice that I ALWAYS pass on to my clients, is this...


Make sense?...

You see, everybody has a good side to them, and isn't it true that it's easy to be nice when everything is going your way? And isn't it much more difficult to be nice when things aren't going your way? So bearing this in mind, here's what often happens in a relationship...

You meet somebody for the first time, and every thing's going their way so they're happy, and as a result, they are REALLY nice to you. You think the sun shines out of this person rear end. One day, this person isn't in a great mood, for whatever reason, and...

You find them, all of a sudden, very rude, and aggressive, basically, they display behavior that outrages you. Now you can't stand this person, and you never want to see them again. This could have been avoided, if you had used your perception correctly...

If I told you I was going to give you £15, but I end up giving you £10, you'd probably be a bit disappointed compared to if I told you I was going to give you £5, but end up giving you £10. It's the same amount of money I've given you, so why do you feel different about it in the 2 scenarios?...

Your perception...

So in a relationship, don't perceive somebody to be better than than they actually are, that's why you should NOT form your final conclusion when everything is hunky-doory...

Oh and by the way, what do you think would happen if you perceived the other person to be worse than they actually are?...

I'll leave you to answer that, just refer back to my £10 example if you're stuck.

Moving Forward...

All of my self help relationship advice is great to build your relationships around, however, it's really important to make sure you get your friends, family, lover, etc., to read my self help relationship advice also...

You need to be reading from the same song sheet!...

Anyway, I'm calling time on this article, so...

Spread the love, and pass on my self help relationship advice to your loved one's.

I'll speak to you soon!

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