Make low self esteem a thing of the past with my self help techniques! |
Having self
esteem problems is literally
crippling and will
prevent you
from living that DREAM
life you deserve. In this article, I'll share
with you some of my effective self esteem building techniques.
In case you didn't already know, self esteem is how you 'rate' yourself or what you believe your 'worth' is...
Your self esteem has a profound effect on everything you say and do, this is why it is so important to know how to build it - hence the reason for this article!
Take a look at this fascinating article from the Joseph Rowntree Foundation about the costs and causes of low self esteem.
Generally, your self esteem is developed by your perception of what other people, or groups of people, who's opinion you value, think or feel about you. Your perception is formed based on what they say or do, in regards to you...
When I refer to 'groups' of people, this could mean people of the same race, sex, age, background, class, etc...
So for example...
Suppose your parents constantly tell you you're a failure, depending on how much you value their opinions will depend on how much their comments will effect your self esteem. So, if you don't value their opinion, your self esteem won't be affected, and if you do, then it will...
Self esteem is also developed from your perception of your performances in life. Obviously, to have a low self esteem, you have to perceive yourself to have performed poorly. When this happens on a regular basis your self esteem can be lowered even further...
Performances could be anything from sexual performance, to exam results. Remember, a low self esteem is formed by YOUR perception, and is not necessarily a reality.
For more on this, read my article on theories of personality development...
Below, I've supplied you with a handful of my techniques to illustrate how to tackle a low self esteem. Having a low self esteem is completely reversible with a bit of effort on your part...
Before you move on, establish the reasons for your low self esteem and then use the technique(s) that are relevant...
All the self esteem help you need is contained in this article, don't allow a lack of self esteem to prevent you from living that DREAM life you deserve...
Utilize the above strategies that are most relevant to your situation and start building self esteem NOW...
Don't allow it to hold you back in life!
In case you didn't already know, self esteem is how you 'rate' yourself or what you believe your 'worth' is...
Your self esteem has a profound effect on everything you say and do, this is why it is so important to know how to build it - hence the reason for this article!
Take a look at this fascinating article from the Joseph Rowntree Foundation about the costs and causes of low self esteem.
The causes of low self esteem
Generally, your self esteem is developed by your perception of what other people, or groups of people, who's opinion you value, think or feel about you. Your perception is formed based on what they say or do, in regards to you...
When I refer to 'groups' of people, this could mean people of the same race, sex, age, background, class, etc...
So for example...
Suppose your parents constantly tell you you're a failure, depending on how much you value their opinions will depend on how much their comments will effect your self esteem. So, if you don't value their opinion, your self esteem won't be affected, and if you do, then it will...
Self esteem is also developed from your perception of your performances in life. Obviously, to have a low self esteem, you have to perceive yourself to have performed poorly. When this happens on a regular basis your self esteem can be lowered even further...
Performances could be anything from sexual performance, to exam results. Remember, a low self esteem is formed by YOUR perception, and is not necessarily a reality.
For more on this, read my article on theories of personality development...
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Repairing your self esteem
Below, I've supplied you with a handful of my techniques to illustrate how to tackle a low self esteem. Having a low self esteem is completely reversible with a bit of effort on your part...
Before you move on, establish the reasons for your low self esteem and then use the technique(s) that are relevant...
How good am I?
A
lot of the time, people with a low self esteem don't give
themselves
enough credit for the positive
things that they do and achieve.
Conversely,
they absolutely 'hammer'
themselves for the negatives
or
failures...
So, the first bit of advice is simple, give yourself 'pats on the back' for all the positive things you achieve in life. I recommend you look in the mirror with a big smile on your face and tell yourself how good your achievements are.
Bad is good, if you allow it to be! Always, always, always learn from mistakes, failures, etc. Success is a poor teacher, and through every failure, there is a valuable lesson just waiting to be learnt, but you have to look for it first...
I promise you this, when you do this, you'll never be scared of problems or failures again and you may even begin to start appreciating them. Always give yourself 'pats on the back' as you grow from them.
So, the first bit of advice is simple, give yourself 'pats on the back' for all the positive things you achieve in life. I recommend you look in the mirror with a big smile on your face and tell yourself how good your achievements are.
Bad is good, if you allow it to be! Always, always, always learn from mistakes, failures, etc. Success is a poor teacher, and through every failure, there is a valuable lesson just waiting to be learnt, but you have to look for it first...
I promise you this, when you do this, you'll never be scared of problems or failures again and you may even begin to start appreciating them. Always give yourself 'pats on the back' as you grow from them.
Make fun of yourself
The
first time I had to speak in public I was absolutely terrified of
messing up. It hindered my ability to be the best I could be, until
I quickly realised how to counteract it. How? By simply making
fun of yourself or the
situation...
The next time you watch live TV, look out for the presenters mistakes, or when things didn't go according to the script. Good presenters will make fun of themselves or the situation if they make a mistake, and often become more entertaining as a result...
Remember, bad is good, if you allow it to be!
For anyone with a low self esteem, this is a great way to overcome any fears you have of "looking stupid!", because people will now laugh with you as opposed to laughing AT you!
The next time you watch live TV, look out for the presenters mistakes, or when things didn't go according to the script. Good presenters will make fun of themselves or the situation if they make a mistake, and often become more entertaining as a result...
Remember, bad is good, if you allow it to be!
For anyone with a low self esteem, this is a great way to overcome any fears you have of "looking stupid!", because people will now laugh with you as opposed to laughing AT you!
Learn to be right
When you 'learn' to be right
all, or most
of the time, you begin to have confidence in YOU. I don't for one
minute suggest you become a 'Mr/Mrs
know it all' that has to always
be right, NO!
Sometimes, self esteem problems are developed because of feeling ashamed when you get things wrong. If you're wrong less, then you'll feel ashamed less, simple right? But let me explain what I mean by "being right"...
With everything that you say, it's important to be factual or as near factual as possible. You can't be wrong if you are factually right now can you? And if you're in any doubt about anything you say, then simply say things like, "I'm not sure, but..." or "Don't quote me on this" or "I don't know for a fact, but..."
So, if you have a low self esteem, then make sure everything you say is factual or as near factual as possible, and if you're unsure of anything you say, then say so!
Sometimes, self esteem problems are developed because of feeling ashamed when you get things wrong. If you're wrong less, then you'll feel ashamed less, simple right? But let me explain what I mean by "being right"...
With everything that you say, it's important to be factual or as near factual as possible. You can't be wrong if you are factually right now can you? And if you're in any doubt about anything you say, then simply say things like, "I'm not sure, but..." or "Don't quote me on this" or "I don't know for a fact, but..."
So, if you have a low self esteem, then make sure everything you say is factual or as near factual as possible, and if you're unsure of anything you say, then say so!
Emotional intelligence
Emotions are like encrypted
clues, telling you the 'right'
thing to do, for YOU!
Sometimes
the reason you may have a low self esteem may
be valid,
and may need to be addressed, but you must first identify what it is
that needs fixing...
Find out more about emotional intelligence by clicking here.
If you decide to change anything about yourself, then please, please, please make CERTAIN that you're doing it for YOU and not because someone else wants you to.
Win your own approval and forget about other people's approval, of course unless you have to, i.e. you're not classed as an adult yet and you're still under parental guidance. Remember, it's your life at the end of the day, so YOU live it!
Find out more about emotional intelligence by clicking here.
If you decide to change anything about yourself, then please, please, please make CERTAIN that you're doing it for YOU and not because someone else wants you to.
Its all about you!
This one is short and sweet...Win your own approval and forget about other people's approval, of course unless you have to, i.e. you're not classed as an adult yet and you're still under parental guidance. Remember, it's your life at the end of the day, so YOU live it!
Good relationships
Often, people who
suffer from a low self esteem, developed it from the actions of the
people closest
to them, whether intentional or not. Good relationships can have a major effect on
self esteem and your self worth.
Click here and take a look at my article on building extraordinary relationships...
If you have any relationships in your life that are contributing to your self esteem problems, then you MUST address this problem, pronto!
Click here and take a look at my article on building extraordinary relationships...
If you have any relationships in your life that are contributing to your self esteem problems, then you MUST address this problem, pronto!
Be successful
Success
in my book, is doing things that enable you to feel the positive
emotions that you want
to feel. Achieving this, to
me,
means success...
When you have a low self esteem, you are constantly subject to feeling negative emotions and that in turn means you are unhappy, and nobody wants to be unhappy!
So, learn exactly how to be successful and feel all the GOOD, positive emotions you want to feel, by clicking here!
When you have a low self esteem, you are constantly subject to feeling negative emotions and that in turn means you are unhappy, and nobody wants to be unhappy!
So, learn exactly how to be successful and feel all the GOOD, positive emotions you want to feel, by clicking here!
Foundations
I've saved the best
till last!...
Your foundations, or values, are the be all and end all in regards to your happiness in life. Therefore, it's important to have rock solid foundations...
Click here to find out more on this, and take the FREE personality test, even if you don't need help building self esteem!
Your foundations, or values, are the be all and end all in regards to your happiness in life. Therefore, it's important to have rock solid foundations...
Click here to find out more on this, and take the FREE personality test, even if you don't need help building self esteem!
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Moving Forward...
All the self esteem help you need is contained in this article, don't allow a lack of self esteem to prevent you from living that DREAM life you deserve...
Utilize the above strategies that are most relevant to your situation and start building self esteem NOW...
Don't allow it to hold you back in life!
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